I received several copies of the recent live social media post by two Conestoga High School girls with racial slurs. The ‘white’ girls use the “N”-word multiple times in the racially offensive video which has since gone viral.
For African-American students living in some parts of the country, the use of the N-word by their white peers may be routine. But I admit that in 2018, living in the T/E School District, I found the racial vitriol of the video shocking and extremely disturbing. Am I naive to think that this video by a couple of Conestoga High School students is an isolated situation or … is it symptomatic of a bigger problem in the school district?
Following the video going viral, the T/E School District families received a letter from Superintendent Gusick which contained the following message, “T/E School District strongly condemns this and all forms of racist language. Although this video was not made during school, it has hurt and offended many in our school community. This is unacceptable behavior, and it will not be tolerated. The school will investigate fully and apply consequences as appropriate. T/E School District will continue to stand for respect and inclusion, with schools where all are welcomed to learn and grow.”
I totally agree that the incident needs to be taken seriously as a type of expression of hate and an immediate investigation with consequences as appropriate. And would like to hope that the use of the N-word hurt and offends ALL in our school community. Please let this situation not be viewed as just a couple of teenagers fooling around or that it falls into “gray area” because the video was not made at school.
Leadership by the school board and administration is needed to answer the question, “Where do we go from here?” Our children need to be safe in our schools — and that includes safe from racial discrimination.
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I want to make something abundantly clear — I 100% feel that the responsibility to raise decent human beings is an obligation of parents. I do believe that the majority of parents are good parents and in fact, great parents. Respect, values, fair treatment of others, etc. should all be taught at home but sadly, in today’s world many children are missing these lessons.
Is the answer for other students and their parents to just accept or is it to look to the school board and administration? As I say, where do we go from here? Bringing awareness to the situation with discussion is important. No one wants to see a racial video go unchecked and the situation escalated!
I am president of the African-American Student Union at Conestoga and I just wanna thank you for taking the time to spread awareness to this issue.
Thank you Heather. Words DO matter.
The “N-word” has no place in our schools or work places. It was disrespectful and stupid for these girls to say what they did, but stupidity is not a crime. But I will believe African Americans are serious about quashing the “N word” when it no longer one of the primary lyrics of gangsta rap and removing it from the common vernacular. Otherwise, this is all just posturing and playing activist.
Thank you Heather and Pattye,
I too want to keep online bigotry in check. In my research, I found that The Southern Poverty Law Center advises that we stop online bigotry at our computers –1) “Forward No More”. This is not as good as speaking up but it is a solid first step to breaking the chain. 2) “Reply to the sender” explain to the sender that this offends you and ask to be removed from any similar post or email in the future. 3) “Reply to all” Imagine if all recipients responded in this way. If choosing this last option, be aware that you may get negative replies. You do not have to respond to the replies, but if you do, use a thoughtful, constructive tone, seeking understanding not combative argument. “There may be times when we are powerless to prevent injustice, but there must never be a time when we fail to protest.” Elie Wiesel quoted from https://www.splcenter.org/about
I have recently moved to TE and do not have children in the school district so appreciate knowing what is going on. The girls will have to live with the consequences of their actions. A mistake that will cost them dearly. I understand from your post that the video did not take place at school and that the administration is addressing the situation. Thank you.
Correct, the video did not happen at the high school. The school district administrators are handling this situation in an open, effective way. Although the video was clearly a mistake, discussion about how ‘words matter’ is not.
these girls were wrong. They acted like spoiled, entitled kids. But they are kids and make mistakes.
However, they get mixed messages when it is ok for some to use the word (rappers, athletes, media, etc.) without the negative repercussions.
The girls have been vilified in the schools and the local community. They have been forced to transfer schools. They have lost college scholarships and opportunities.
At the end of the day, they made a mistake. A really bad one. Instead of attacking these two girls, why don’t we turn it into a learning experience and have conversations about the meaning behind the word?
Sorry to hear that the girls lost college scholarships over the video. I agree that using the situation as a learning experience and dialogue about the meaning behind the word is important in moving forward.
Thank you for raising awareness of this issue, and I agree we need a dialogue on race in order to help change people’s perspectives. I wish that was happening at the high school, instead of just having the students leave. I am curious why you tagged only the two members of the school board who are african american in this post? Issues like this are of equal importance to all school board members.
This is an important issue and truly hope that the path leads to open and honest discussion. Racial discrimination is an important topic for all of us regardless of the color of our skin. Certainly a significant issue to all school board members; we can learn from the insight of our African American directors. We can benefit from their personal experiences, which is why I tagged them in the post.
First, I don’t agree using the N word.
After learning more about these two “white girls” it seems the entire story is not being “reported”.
That is, they used the N word while streaming live on Instagram. An African American female recorded the stream and posted it on her Twitter account.
But if the girls offended the African American girl, why didn’t she try to let them know?
Instead, the rush of judgement on two “white girls”, their school district & community by the local media. A community that voted in 5 females & 2 African Americans on the school board.
in fact, during last school board race, last Nov 2017, one of Kyle Boyers’ supporters labeled this Blog’s Host (PattyeB) as racist—Just because they had different opinions.
The word was used to try to silence Pattye and change the narrative. A number of people, me included, rushed to Pattye’s defense.
The two girls used the N word and they were wrong.
The way they were caught, is a bit Orwellian.
Not given a second chance…disappointing.
Finally, wouldn’t it be great, to use this as an learning opportunity for everyone involved as well as go after the music industry that influences our society with their casual use of the N word and references woman as Hoes.
Thank you for your comment. It was sad to read that I was labeled ‘racist’ by a supporter of Mr. Boyer. Thank you and others for your defense! We are all permitted to have our own opinion and our constitution protects our right of free speech. Absolutely agree that this should be a learning opportunity for all involved!
I don’t know all the ins and outs of this situation but just a couple of observations: why would you not identify yourself if you feel compelled to comment on an event and intend to stand up for your views? It is easy to be anonymous, no accountability. Also would be keen to separate facts from hearsay ie have the students been asked to leave? Was it an African American girl who filmed them and posted online? Just wondering..
I really hope that the CHS administration comes down at least as hard on all of the students (who may have also been members of the school-sanctioned African American club) who used social media (go look on what they did on Twitter, FB, etc.) as a very public platform to destroy these two girls. As insensitive and dumb as it was, the N word comment did not appear directed at anyone in particular—unlike the actions of the African American students who specifically intended to harm these girls by posting on social media and publically smearing them. As a result, these girls lost their scholarships and had their future destroyed, hardly quid-pro-quo. I hope the parents file a libel suit against those responsible.
As the distraught parent of one of girls involved in this horrible incident, I would like to share my daughter’s sincere apology which was sent to the school and the field hockey association last week, and which I have posted publicly earlier today.
“I am deeply ashamed for using racist language, and there is no excuse for using such language in public or private. I realize that such words are offensive, uncalled for and, regardless of the situation, I should have known better.
I take full responsibility and I apologize from the bottom of my heart to anyone and everyone who I have offended. I have begun to have conversations about how to move forward, and how to develop better sensitivity and understanding of the experiences and feelings of others. I will do whatever is necessary, including having as many conversations as necessary, to show that I am sincere in my desire to truly learn and grow from this experience.
This has been a painful lesson for me. I had no right hurting people. I truly hope that my thoughtlessness is a lesson for others, as it has been for me, that words do matter and that they can be hurtful.”
Charlotte de Vries
Mr. de Vries, thank you for your comment and for sharing Charlotte’s letter. As a parent myself, I cannot imagine how difficult this situation must be for you and your family. Standing by our children and loving them unconditionally is what we do, even when it challenges us.
Respect, understanding and having uncomfortable conversation about race and racism is how we move forward. Words do matter and the meaning behind words is a reminder to all of us, and a lesson your daughter is learning.
Patty -two sides are needed for a conversation, no matter how difficult that conversation may be. It appears that Ms de Vries has taken the first step – is she being met halfway, a quarter of the way, by anyone?
Yes, you do need to have both sides involved for discussion to happen. Bringing both sides together in a ‘safe place’ for discussion, yes hope that it is happening.
We can all hope , the two girls can sincerely apologize all day to everyone , but I don’t see any chance of this improving the atmosphere if there is no real, meaningful communication between both sides. I think there is too much vindictiveness at the current time. But we can always hope, life is too short to go through it with hate in your heart – that goes for both sides.But there is hope, as I hear some positive activities from the student body.
Good to hear that there are ” some positive activities from the student body”.
Well that’s a little late isn’t it? And, it only comes after getting caught.
Americans have the freedom to say whatever they want but they also forget that there can be severe consequences.
To Will O
The girl apologizes, but that’s Not Enough…
Two white girls use the N word on Instagram, an African American girl
is shocked and appalled of the use of the N word and posts on her Twitter account.
But No That’s Not Enough
ReTweeted to family & friends
But No That’s Not Enough
ReTweeted to EVERY SINGLE NEWS AGENCY in Phila.
But No, That’s Not Enough
ReTweeted to UNC, knowing girl has scholarship
But No, That’s Not Enough
The Main Line NAACP meets with TESD Administrators
(Although nothing occurred on school property)
But No, That’s Not Enough
The TESD Superintendent issues a letter to EVERY PARENT in TESD.
But NO, That’s Not Enough
“People” inform Blog Host, who then writes article on “Community Matters”
But No, That’s Not Enough
Any fair minded person would realize the girls made a mistake–a Big Mistake in using the N word.
Any fair minded person would realize this was a Smear Campaign against
“White Privlidged Girls” ages 16 &17.
Now, everyone who thought they needed to continue this smear campaign
needs to go to the African American girl’s Twitter account…kay$@_kayren
and read how many times SHE casually uses the N word.
By reading the Twitter account, you will also see
A LOT of HATE towards these two
“PRivledged White Girls, B-word”
The Rightous Ignignation &
Hypocrocy needs to stop.
Rick Eckstein, a Villanova sociology professor, responded to the video by saying it was “pretty hard hitting for such a short video. One things stands out for me is how this word, long considered among the most offensive in our language, is tossed around as if it was a joke, and the assumption (is) that others would also find it amusing. I don’t think that’s hatred as much as privilege. People with a certain social standing think they are immune from social norms. Those who will find it offensive are likely to be dismissed as politically correct and thin-skinned since, hey, it was only a joke. I believe this really does reflect the larger political climate where discourse has been replaced by insult and invective. I have not personally seen it on my college campus, but my colleagues here and elsewhere report a sharp uptick in similar episodes of …unabashed racism passing as chic humor.”
Sibling rivalry involves many fights and much more verbal put downs. When siblings fight, it’s what they do. But when someone comes along and wants to fight or put down your sibling, you will fight that “outsider.” Is that hypocrisy?
The n-word is the same, only it’s literally Black & White.
The history of the n-word coming from White people is not simply a “put down.” It’s a statement that the person using it thinks of the Black person as “less than” a person. It is dehumanizing.
The fact that Black people use the word among themselves is not a valid argument because, just like between siblings, the “put down” is not the same; and just like defending a sibling from an “outside” attack, so too will Black folk defend each other from the same.
And if you must ask why this is true, remember that for all of American history, one Black person’s bad act is attributed to the entire race and, yes, it works in the reverse.
It may not be right, but calling it hypocrisy is hypocritical at best.
The girls in the video made a big mistake and are paying a life-changing price for the mistake. But using all forms of social media to vilify them is not going to solve racial problems. Instead, the divide will continue to increase.
I come from a multicultural, faith based upbringing in Philly/Norristown.
I believe FORGIVE and REPAIR are the better methods to deal with this race event.
I pray that students, parents and the community more forward with LOVE and GRACE.
Racism is real and it exists here. Racism or any other discrimination is wrong. Racism needs to be discussed and honestly explained.
The students may want to come together to share their experiences and suggest positive resolutions.
Heroin, suicide, overdose, sexting, hazing, and hatred are SIMPLE to fix.
Admit they exists. Find common grounds and practical solutions.
Reach out, share, and forgive.
Second chances and do overs should be common place.
Students should get off social media and speak face to face in a safe place like the Diversity Committee.